It’s January 2017 and there is an expectancy for goal setting and New Year’s resolutions? (A New Year’s resolution is a tradition, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behaviour.) Well, I am a coach so of course I am a believer of goals and changing behaviour. It is how we evolve as a human being, stretching out of our comfort zone into the ever-expanding zone of continuous development. It’s also a great way to gain direction in life and of course helps measure success. Yet sometimes achieving certain goals does not bring the desired sense of satisfaction, success, or solution we had hoped for.
Generally, it’s because we have not reflected effectively. When we miss out reflection we miss the learning opportunity. The bit that gives the facts about what worked and what didn’t. What we enjoyed, what blocked us? The bit that informs us of the opportunities to change our behaviour, do something different. Adapt processes & policies to increase production and profit. To simply gain results that help us thrive instead of survive! So often we miss out this crucial bit and “do what we have always done and get what we have always got and wonder why nothing changed” well it is because we left out reflection!
Remember …. when you do decide to add reflection into your day, week, year be kind to yourself and look for what you want and the light bulb moments will appear. If we look back harshly as on 2016 as judge & jury and/or comparing to others who we perceive have more success or maybe undervalued our success by not celebrating or sharing the success story with others. When we don’t celebrate our successes, or share our success stories we minimise the happy experience/memory.
If you like theory models then check out David Kolb – David Kolb (b.1939), an American educationalist, produced seminal works on experiential learning theory (see Kolb Learning Styles). In his 1984 book, ‘Experiential Learning: Experience as the Source of Learning and Development’, Kolb extended the ideas of Kurt Lewin, Jean Piaget and others, about adult learning, to produce an experiential learning concept – often represented by Kolb’s Learning Process Diagram. This famous diagram shows four main stages of the learning process, as a continuous loop, in order of:
- Planning/experimentation (and then back to Experience…)
David Kolb’s Learning Styles concept has become a classical model representing the way we experience learning in our everyday life and work, and how we learn best in a practical sense, moving between active and reflective modes, and specifically through the stages. If you want to view the diagram check out www.bussinessballs.com.
Some coaching questions to help to reflect positively are: on 2016?
- Identify 3 experiences in 2016 where you felt happy/content with life. When you felt safe. What do these moments have in common? Who were you with, what were you doing? What did you notice about your wellbeing?
- Name 3 moments in 2016 when you felt sad, stuck, and frustrated? What do these experiences have in common? Who were you with, what were you doing? What did you notice about your wellbeing?
- What has been your biggest challenge in 2016 and how have you handled it?
- What worked well and why in 2016?
- What are you most proud of achieving this year?
- Imagine success in 2017 what does it look like, feel like sound like?
- If you were to create a plan to achieve your goals in 2017, what three specific actions do you believe you need to do differently on a daily basis?
If you need any help reflecting or developing your vison, mission, goals, and resolutions then take action and contact me 07703101676 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
I offer a free 20 minute coaching call do use it to help you decide if you want to work with me as you move towards a more balanced, joyful and fulfilling life.